Who do you tell?

Fam, remember when Tamia asked: who do you tell? I'll give you a few seconds to reminisce.

I'm a 90s kid who grew up with a lot of influences from the 80s. So this song takes me back to my cousin sister's music book.  Those were the days. Back when you had to master the timing of record, stop, rewind and play. That and trying to recall what you just heard. The epitome of responsibility during pass time. Gone are the days!

Who do you tell when adulting is too much? This past month has been showing me flames. I'm here in a crowded room filled with all things adulting. Yho. I've pinched myself enough to come to terms with the fact that I'm not dreaming. It is not a movie. Your girl Responsibility is being so feisty. Guys, adulting is a trap.

To be fair every year has that month, or months, when things just go left. When you lose your balance and things just get out of hand. That month when you see what they meant when they said that "die poppe sal dans". Die poppe dans! I'm watching them do everything from the waltz to the kwasa kwasa. Adulting is dribbling me so much that I'm not even sure which style it is anymore. I'm not sure if I'm on the Toosie slide or the  Zekethe side of things. Bottom line is that the dolls are dancing!

I look forward to a future when my present is but a distant past...

May

 A part of me feels like she blinked and it was already May. Where did March and April go?!

I don't know about you but this past month was just lit. Wait. 2021 nje has been lit. My "location"📍has just been rotating from one deadline to the next. In all this craziness, it's been quite tricky navigating self love while breathing through the wound of adulting. I've had this conversation with a few people and it seems like we're all going through the most...in one way or another.

Something came to mind while I was making a mental note of how this month is looking in terms of deadlines and "adulting" duties. I started thinking about May as a standalone word. How it expresses possibilities and how we use the word when we are hoping for something.

Dear reader,
May this new month bring you new possibilities to start over,
May you be open to the idea of being kinder to yourself,
May you hold on to moments which make you smile or laugh effortlessly,
May you be surrounded by gentle reminders that you are not alone,
May you repossess the power to self define,
May you forgive yourself,
May you heal from things you can't talk about,
May you extend warmth when you can,
May you be okay with Plan A,B or C not working out,
May you be present...

If all else fails, may you locate the bravery to pull a "stomach in, chest out" and just show up...